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Testimonials
What people say — about what our work meant.
I feel very fortunate to have worked with Ian. I’ve seen other therapists in the past, but none helped me understand myself in quite the same way. Through our work, I’ve come to recognise my relationship patterns more clearly — where and how I could make changes, and what I needed to accept and manage for myself.
For the first time in my life I’m learning how to talk about my feelings. I was taught it’s not what men do... It’s not all plain sailing but I feel happier and my relationships with my partner, family and friends all feel warmer and closer. It’s like the difference between an old black and white portable TV and a 4K Ultra-HD one!
I’ve gained so much through my sessions with Ian. He helped me find my own voice. I’m much clearer about my feelings and what’s important to me — the choices I need to make, and how to say what I need... Drop by drop by drop, I’ve learned how to hold my boundaries and to say ‘no’.
Ian changed my life. I was angry and frightened when I went to see him. Ian quickly saw that. I was lost and he gave me a map. I can find it difficult to open up but with him it was different. I always found Ian completely non-judgemental. He understands men, especially angry men, their trauma, their shadow and their spirituality.
I feel I’m able to articulate myself much more clearly now... It’s like all the different parts of me are in the same room having a conversation, instead of being confused and frightened and scattered all over the place.
I used to believe that when stuff happened, I’d just go tight in my body and that was it — like a bucket of sand, hard and impenetrable. Now it’s like I can throw the sand in the ocean and watch it dissolve. There’s nothing solid left. You saw that tightness in me — my grief and anger — and helped me see I didn’t have to hold onto it.
One of the best things was that Ian listened to what I had to say without judging or fixing. To have a safe space where I could talk and say what I needed to say has been so important for me.
Over time, I’ve gained a greater sense of peace with myself and with my life. Our sessions made me stop and think and see my life in a different way. I often walked away feeling calmer, clearer and energised.
Client reflections are anonymised and, in some cases, lightly edited to protect confidentiality.